01 January 2018

a new year

I have learned a lot of things in the past year or two - after all, my entire life has literally turned around in that time. These are in no particular order, but I feel like they're things everyone should know - I sure wish I did. They could've saved me a lot of worries.

Don't take things for granted. 
You never know what might happen and before you know it, you could have lost them. This relates especially to good health - make the most of it while you can. My health has gotten significantly worse in 2016 and 2017, is still getting worse now, and there's so many things I loved doing before or wanted to do someday that I can't do now. You might get ill, you might have an accident, and you'll definitely get old. Don't postpone your dreams.

Never apologise for the things you (don't) like.
If something makes you happy, that's all that matters - it's okay that others dislike that thing or don't understand why you enjoy it so much. Same goes for stuff you might not enjoy that everyone else seems to love. You don't have to enjoy things just because your friends do, just like your friends don't have to enjoy all of the things you like. 

"You're smart for your age" is only a compliment when you're ten.
When you're a teenager, an adult just says it because they don't think people your age have something to say - especially when it comes to serious topics like politics or climate change.

Stop judging other people based on looks.
Having a different body type or taste in clothes than you, being tattooed or having body modifications doesn't make the other person any better or worse than you, and frankly it's none of your business. Other people are allowed to make their own choices - be it about their looks or anything else.

Be kind.
It's not hard to be kind to others. Hold a door for someone. Tell that girl you just met that you like her dress. Remind the customer at work that they can get a discount if they have a student ID. Tutor your classmates who are worse at a subject than you. Give your pet a treat - not because they did something good, just because you love them. Hug your friends. Don't be an asshole.

People are allowed to dislike you.
That doesn't make them a bad person. People are entitled to their own opinions - and chances are that opinion is not going to change, so don't bother. There's plenty of people who genuinely like you and enjoy your company, so stop focusing on the ones who don't. You don't need them in your life.

Cut toxic people from your life.
Even if they're family members - if someone keeps putting you down, they need to go. You're an incredible human and you don't need the negativity.

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